I recently attended the RISE conference and rising is what we did.
I’m still in awe with the experience of the events collective community of women, who came together to support, empower and honour their dreams, their hearts, their failures and their sisters.
It was an absolute honour to share the stage to discuss Confidence and Self Worth with some awesome speakers doing game changing work, like the powerful and divine Danielle LaPorte (below), and to be in a room filled with the uplifting energy of so many souls who are ready to FLY ??.
On the other hand, something that really struck me, was the conversations that I had, and the common thoughts I’m hearing that are limiting SO many incredible women from success.
Thoughts you might be having…
- I should just accept that I’m ordinary.
- I’m not pretty / rich / smart / talented / young enough to have my dream life.
- Everyone else is doing better than I am.
- I’ve never stood out before, and nothing I do will change that.
- So many people have it worse than me — who am I to want more?
- Only selfish, greedy people get everything they want.
First of all, NONE of these thoughts are true.
It’s normal to have limiting beliefs when we up-level our lives, as we experience fear and resistance to the ‘new’ life we’re stepping into — and you can change your thoughts.
So I’ve put together 3 ways to STOP limiting yourself with impostor syndrome (adapted from the research of Dr. Valerie Young):
- Create a new internal script. Your script is that automatic mental tape that starts playing in situations that trigger your Impostor feelings. When you start a new job or project instead of thinking for example, “Wait till they find out I have no idea what I’m doing,” try thinking, “Everyone who starts something new feels off-base in the beginning. I may not know all the answers but I’m smart enough to find them out.”
- Right the rules. If you’ve been operating under misguided rules like, “I should always know the answer,” or “Never ask for help” start asserting your rights. Recognize that you have just as much right as the next person to be wrong, have an off-day, or ask for assistance.
- DO it ‘til you make it. Now and then we all have to fly by the seat of our pants. Instead of considering “winging it” as proof of your ineptness, learn to do what many high achievers do and view it as a skill. The point of the worn out phrase, fake it til you make it, still stands: Don’t wait until you feel confident to start putting yourself out there. Courage comes from taking risks. Change your behavior first and allow your confidence to build.
The FEAR you’re facing today is much smaller than the VALUE of your dreams.
If you CHANGED your limiting beliefs, what’s one thing you’d tell yourself today?
Leave a comment below and let me know.
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Thank you for being here and choosing to be you, with confidence.
With love and support,