Before you even start to THINK of goal setting for 2020 (and actually achieving your dreams) there’s a few things you need to change.

I’m talking about Self Sabotage. 

As much as you’d probably like to deny it – I’m pretty sure you’ve self sabotaged yourself before.

I know, I sure have.

In fact, everyone has. So don’t sweat it.

It’s basically that moment when we let fear take over.

You know, that nasty voice in your head telling you, you’re not good enough, smart enough, young/old enough – or maybe even that you’re not worthy of the things you want in your life) and we believe it to be true.

Why do we do this you might ask?! Because we’re afraid.

We’re scared of what this new “thing” (relationship, job, passion project etc) may bring us, so without even knowing it, we avoid it. Sound familiar?

We do things in excess like, eating, partying, sex’ing, spending, arguing – even, isolating. On the contrary, we put bare minimum energy into the things we want (and know – deep down – are good for us).

In essence, we all have limiting behaviour that prevents us from getting what we want and we can stop.

How to STOP your sabotaging ways and FINALLY get what you want:

1. Recognize that everyone has sabotaging thoughts AKA saboteurs. We all have parts of ourselves that are overly judgmental, fearful, controlling etc, and if you don’t recognize these saboteurs, they will continue to hold you back. You also have parts of yourself that are bold, creative, curious, and determined. Your goal is to lessen your time spent with the saboteurs, and to spend more time with the positive thoughts.

ACTION: Give yourself some good ol’ self love.

My favourite quote that you may want to save or share, to remind you to spend MORE time with your positive thoughts:

An old Cherokee told his grandson: My son there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth. The boy asks, Grandfather, which wolf wins? The old man replied, the one you feed. – Author, unknown

2. Train yourself to be emotionally fit. Tapping into the power of your positivity, instead of letting the part of you that is constantly judging yourself interfere, will enable you to move forward with your goals faster and with more ease.

ACTION: Get yourself a gratitude journal and start and end your day by writing 5 things you’re grateful for. Hint, you’re practicing using your positive muscles, which will naturally weaken the negative.

3. Know that your choices will either enhance or weaken you. Every single choice that you make is either moving toward love or fear. There is nothing in between. There’s really no other choice. @yuology. ,-  tweet this!

ACTION: Choose love <3

Now it’s your turn, what’s ONE thing you’re going to start (to stop self sabotage) before the end of the year?

Leave a comment below and let me know.

If you know someone who could use some tips before 2020 starts, share this post.

You were born with a unique and special gift and now’s the time to shine. The world needs you more than ever.

Thank you for being here and choosing to be you, with confidence.

With love and support,

XO

Tonia

P.S. If you want to gain more confidence and clarity in your life, book a FREE breakthrough call with me. I offer 30 minute coaching calls to people who are SO ready to make a change before 2020.